Tuesday, January 24, 2012


"Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you to repentance?"
-Romans 2:4

This is my favorite verse regarding repentance.  It's not an issue I think about a lot, but after a few months' hiatus, the great group of She Says gals recorded a podcast on the subject.  Here's the episode.

It came at a great time in my life....I've realized more than ever that I am a mess.  Thankfully, God is patient with me and kind when He points out areas where I need to change.  He is faithful and good to empower me by the Holy Spirit to make changes and His grace is freely given when I fail (and oh how I fail...I've finally made peace with that fact!)

Isn't God good?

Friday, January 20, 2012

This Weekend's Musing

"If you've lived your life looking for someone to take care of you but always end up taking care of everyone else, your search is over.  God has what you need, and you'll never wear Him out."
-Beth Moore, So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us

Monday, January 16, 2012


"Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children."
-Ephesians 5:1

For the New Year, I have prayerfully picked out a few Scriptures that I am using in my prayer time for members of my family, friends, the Church and the world.  Ephesians 5:1 is the passage that I am praying for Hubs and my daughter.  Last week I took out my Bible to pray for them and read through the passage a couple of times.

In that reading, a light bulb in my brain went off (or, I should say, I got a Holy Spirit two-by-four to my head).

Paul is commanding us to imitate God like a child would imitate his or her parent.  How do we begin to imitate God?  Well, our children spend a lot of time with us.  Soon they  begin to pick up some cute (or annoying) habits.  My daughter currently likes to imitate yawns.  It's pretty darn cute.

God is calling us to imitate Him like that; to pick up His way of living and loving, no matter how big or how small.  How can we do that?  By spending time with Him in prayer and in the Word.

I always used to pass over the "as dearly loved children" phrase in that verse.  "Be imitators of God"...yeah, yeah....I can do that all by myself.


The only way I can imitate God is to be with Him; to invite Him into my heart and my day.  For me, that means taking time to pray for my family and friends using Bible verses, talking with Him while driving to the grocery store, etc.  Spending time in His Word.  Stopping for a few minutes to listen while the Holy Spirit is moving.  By grace, he can change me from being a self-reliant, willful child to a peaceful, loving person who can hear His voice and live in His presence.  

After all, this imitation is great practice for what is before me....living continually in His glory as His beloved child.  I am so thankful that God  revealed these truths to me.  I encourage you to pray for Him to draw near to you in your day too...He desires to know You.  Spend some time with Him today.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Wifey Wednesday: His Wish List

1.  Be less impatient.
2.  Be more considerate of my concerns/wants, as well as my upbringing/family-style.
3.  Be more confident in herself.
-Hubs, from "Couple Communication Exercise II".

These past few months have consisted of cleaning, purging and redecorating in our house.  As I write this, Hubs is downstairs painting our dining room and the man cave is completely cleaned out (aside from a piano we recently acquired...which reeks of old cigars.  I've just finished wiping down the outside and inside with vinegar.  Hopefully that gets the yuck out, but if anyone has any suggestions, I'm open to them!)

As we were cleaning, Hubs found our premarital counseling material.  We had a good laugh when we read his example of "assertive communication": "I feel sad....when you're annoying."  His sense of humor has definitely not changed!  I flipped over the page and found the wish list I've quoted above.

Reading each of Hub's wishes for me stung a little.

It will be 4 years of marriage for us in August, and I have not come a long way in most of his wishes for me.  In fact, I would say I've probably backpedaled on some.  I am still very impatient.  I often think of myself before I think of his wants or needs.  I've also continued to struggle with confidence issues.

But I'm not content to wallow in the guilt of falling short of this list.  I want to make my marriage better...so I've kept Hub's wish list in order to remind myself of his needs and desires in our life together.  I'm praying that by God's grace I grow a little in these areas each day.

How about you, wives?  In addition (or instead of) your own New Year's resolutions, why not ask your guy what he wishes for you?  It is a fun, enlightening and intimate exercise for your marriage.